Westchester’s Only Martial Arts Personal Development Center
For more videos on Self Control and many other Powerful Words teachings,
you can find them on Guro Patrick Consing’s Youtube channel: “Martial Arts Success“
The most powerful people are not those who can exert control over others, but rather, those who can stay in control of themselves. – Dr. Robyn Silverman – Kapatid Martial Arts’s Child Development Expert
Pleasantville, NY - February 2010 is Self Control Month as part of Kapatid Martial Arts’s POWerful Words Character Development program! Students will be studying, developing and experiencing powerful life lessons focusing on how to successfully build their Self Control. In addition to all of the physical skills that they’ll be developing this month, students will be discussing and practicing the following concepts that will help them to realize the value and benefit of slowing down and thinking through their choices before acting upon them. Students will be focusing on the following topics both in and out of class:
“Self control refers to the ability to stop, think and choose wisely before acting. People who have self control don’t do the first behavior that pops into their heads – behaviors that they may regret later. Self control is a vital social skill that allows people to consider the effects of their actions before they take them.” says Dr. Robyn Silverman, Kapatid Martial Arts’s child & adolescent expert, and creator of the POWerful Words Character Development program used at the facility.
Patrick Consing, Executive Director of Kapatid Martial Arts says, “Self control is by far, one of the most powerful character traits that we help our students to develop here…with this skill, our students are sure to benefit both here, at school and out in the real world! We’ve seen that most of the positive role models that we look up to have a very strong sense of self control and we know that it’s one of their secrets to success! We’re proud to be surrounded with strong, kind, talented and disciplined students and are honored to help them develop themselves for a future filled with success.”
Pleasantville, NY Martial Arts Instructor / Success Coach, Patrick Consing expresses his thanks to all the students and families of Kapatid Martial Arts Academy for participating in this years Salvation Army Wish-Upon-A-Star Program.
This premier martial arts academy in Upper Westchester pledged to fulfill one hundred wishes (stars) to less fortunate children in Westchester County, New York. Each star has the written wish of a young boy or girl, their age, and the description of the toy they desire. For most of these kids, this wish will be the only gift they will receive this holiday season.
For the past seven years, Kapatid Martial Arts Academy has brought joy and hope to many families experiencing hardship during the holiday season by participating in this wonderful charity by the Salvation Army.
Kapatid Martial Arts is Westchester County’s only Martial Arts Personal Development Center, which combines effective street self-defense and personal protection methods, together with personal development and self-mastery.
“A mind, when open, creates a door to possibilities. When closed, it builds an insurmountable wall. Only we can decide which one we construct.”– Dr. Robyn Silverman - Kapatid Martial Arts Academy’s Child Development Expert
December 2009 is Open-Mindedness Month as part of Kapatid Martial Arts Academy’s POWerful Words Character Development program! Students will be studying, developing and experiencing powerful life lessons focusing on how to safely, responsibly, and successfully open their minds. In addition to all of the physical skills that they’ll be developing this month, students will be discussing and practicing the following concepts that will help them to realize the value and benefit of being an open-minded member of our community. Students will be focusing on the following topics both in and out of class:
“Open-mindedness is a wonderful gift to nurture children’s curiosity and expose them to ideas, cultures, foods and people who can positively impact their lives!” says Dr. Robyn Silverman, Kapatid Martial Arts Academy’s child & adolescent expert, and creator of the POWerful Words Character Development program used at the facility.
Patrick Consing, Executive Director of Kapatid Martial Arts Academy says, “Open-Mindedness is going to be a fantastic month here at our school. The opportunity to help our students enjoy the benefits of being open to new people, new ideas and new experiences is really exciting…our students are sure to benefit both here, at school and out in the real world!” We are confident that open-mindedness is one of the deciding factors in helping a person become and stay successful. This month’s curriculum is sure to be life changing for many of our students! We’re proud to be surrounded with spectacular and caring students and are honored to help them develop themselves for a future filled with success.”
Kapatid Martial Arts Academy’s strong curriculum and the POWerful Words Character Development system provide our students with the opportunities to become UNSTOPPABLE in life. These lessons will remain with our students for life and we’re honored to help them achieve the success that they deserve” says Consing.
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This month’s Powerful Word is the secret to my success: APPRECIATION
Appreciation, to me, really measures the quality and worth of a person in which he or she gives thanks, gratitude and honor to the people in their lives and the things they have. Appreciation also determines the potential of a person’s ability to succeed and fail in life.
I reflect back at all my set backs and failures in my life and realize that there was always someone there to give me a boost to rise back up
I’ve had the great opportunity to be under great mentors and coaches who have helped me along my road to success. I’ve had a very patient and supportive single parent who sacrificed for me to keep me in the martial arts. Sure I was stubborn many times when my mom or my coaches tried to council me, but in the end I knew they were right because of their wisdom and experience.
I appreciate where I am today in my life. I am able to empower hundreds of lives through the martial arts to help men, women, and children live to their very best and reach for their goals. I am thankful for my teachers and coaches who set a great example for me to follow, because now I am a reflection of the guidance that they gave me. I honor them. I did not do it alone. I am not an island.
I learned a very important lesson when I was young from my grandmother. She once observed me in a toy store with my mom, and I put on a tantrum like you wouldn’t believe because my mom wouldn’t get me the toy I wanted. My grandmother was embarrassed for my mom, because she knew my mom was never like that when she was a child. My mom of course was livid with me. She lost her cool fast because she did not raise me to have such behavior.
So my grandmother had to pull me to the side. I knew I could not get away with such behavior. She simply said to me “Patrick, that’s enough! You are going to have to learn how to work for things from now on!” Of course, it was a little more dramatic than I’ve described. I got it when I got home. I grandmother took away all my toys that she previously gave me, because she realized I was spoiled.
That incident left an imprint in my life, because from that day on, I simply did not get what I wanted anymore, I had to earn it, even at such a young age. My mom of course could have afforded to give me anything I wanted but she held back. If wanted a toy, comic book, or even go to the movies, there were chores involved.
My mom even enrolled me in the martial arts to learn the respect I have now for others. I was not a regular student. My Sensei made me clean the training area, dressing rooms, bathrooms, and offices in the Dojo (training hall in Japanese). Day after day until I became a green belt, I realized the meaning of having work ethic. My Sensei always used to say to me, “Patrick, whenever you do something, you are putting your signature on it. You are either going to sign your name with honor or shame! So you might as well not waste your time and give your best effort!”
Because of those lessons, I am where I am today. I appreciate my Lola (this means grandmother in Filipino) and for my Sensei for teaching me this when I was young. Till this day when I visit my 95-year-old Lola in San Francisco, I still help around the house and do chores. I’m also still in touch with my Sensei, who I’ve had a father & son relationship now for the past 25 years.
I appreciate the lessons I’ve learned. Hasn’t been easy, but here I am. I have the unique and privileged position to teach this to the future generations. That’s why I’m tough on my students, because I want the best for them and their families.
I said to myself when I first started teaching the martial arts as my profession that if I could only affect one student in my life and help them achieve more than they’ve ever achieved then that effort would be worth all the pains and hardships I’ve gone through.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. I really appreciate it…
Gumagalang (Respectfully),
Hello Members,
I want to express my gratitude and thanks to Dr. Robyn Silverman and Jason Silverman for their continued efforts and support in bring us the best character education program around, Powerful Words!. I am proud that Kapatid Martial Arts is a part of the Powerful Words Program, helping change the lives of the many families in our community for the better.
Gumagalang (Respectfully),
Please watch the following video with Dr. Robyn Silverman
introduce our Powerful Word of the Month: Appreciation
Hello Friends,
How are you doing so far in ‘09? I hope this month’s Powerful Word finds you in good spirit and great attitude. This month’s Powerful Word is Confidence, created by the nation’s leading Child Development Specialist, Dr. Robyn Silverman.
This is one of my favorite martial arts characteristics. If there is one thing that is the outcome of all the training and philosophy of the martial arts it’s the power to believe in yourself. Kapatid Martial Arts Academy prides ourselves in developing the confidence of all the men, women, and children that are members of our academy.
How is Confidence built? - You build up your confidence, one challenge at a time. Once you conquer or tackle a challenge and overcome it, that becomes a stepping stone or platform for you to reach for higher goals and aspirations. When you master a challenge/problem over and over again, it boosts you to see what else you can achieve.
For example, when a child who is shy and timid, and lacks the self-esteem to come to class, the solution there is to just take the first step in class. I wouldn’t throw them right away into the fire, just to see them burn… Baby steps, till they can walk on their own.
The late Martin Luther King Jr once said, “Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.“ The goal in the martial arts is to achieve the Black Belt. Now to a beginner that can be like telling you to climb Mt Everest. I’m not going to fool you by saying things will be easy. The path towards your mastery will have many twists and turns along with road blocks. You will get bumps and bruises along the way. As your coach, I am your bumper rails to keep you on the path, on track towards your personal mastery.
Who you and/or child associates with also makes a difference. Surround yourself with positive successful people, you too will be successful. Surround yourself with individuals who are confident in their abilities, you too will gain confidence in your abilities.
But if you hang out with people who are all about doom and gloom, saying things like “But what if I fail? what if things don’t workout as planned?”, you need to put yourself in check and protect yourself against those kinds of people. It’s a bully method. They will justify their attitude and behavior by telling you it’s alright not to take action, because by not taking action you can’t fail. WRONG! By not taking action, you don’t move forward either!
Just like leadership, you are not born with Confidence. It’s not built overnight, but it starts instantly with you. Make the CHOICE to live with CONFIDENCE. DECIDE NOW!
To Your Success,
PS. Here’s this month’s message from the Powerful Words creator, Dr. Robyn Silverman:
PPS. Congratulations Dr. Robyn and Jason Silverman for the birth of their adoptive daughter, Talia Paige!!!
Dear Friends and Members,
Can you believe it? 31 days down from 2009. I hope you’re up and running towards your goal that you set from the beginning of the year. These days you have to fight and go for it. Take action and work your plan…
Life seems like a rush these days. Everyday I express my gratitude for another day to make a difference in this world. I love what I do. I know I have a large responsibility on my hands, that few men would ever care for. One of my sources of inspiration is see you succeed and reach your goals, not only in the martial arts, but in all aspects of your life.
My instructor, Pamana Tuhon Sayoc, once asked me if I thought that I was successful. I asked him if that was a trick philosophical question. Tuhon said to me, “Pat, what you do on the mat, do you believe that it saves lives?” I enthusiastically replied “Yes!”
“How many lives do you think you’ve saved then over the years?”, Tuhon asked.
“Hundreds..”, I answered.
“What cost has it been to you or to those you’ve saved and influenced?” - Tuhon
“Priceless” - Guro
“Would you trade that responsibility for anything in this world?” - Tuhon
“Nothing at all” - Guro
“Then you are a man who has passion for something that he truely believes in, even though you have no obligation or attachment to do so, you do it with fervor and continually do your best. There are men who go through this life never knowing the greatness within them, their pursose and their calling. What we do saves lives…” - Tuhon
I wanted to share that with you, because I too have mentors/coaches cheering me on, reminding me of the things I know, and the things that am supposed to do. Having a coach behind me keeps me alert and hungry for my goals in life. Tell me what moves you, what inspires you. I’d love to hear from you. You can email me at info@kapatidmartialarts.com.
To your success,
Guro Patrick Consing